At a masquerade ball, their masks are off. And as Sidney and Charlotte move together, they weave a new way of being with each other, as the dance mirrors a deep shift within each of them. Each of us watching felt it. How could you not feel it. Seriously, I can STILL feel it! Sigh. Which is why we want Sidney to keep dancing with
her, to continue in the reverie of that moment, and to not veer south toward Eliza.
Then the music stops, and Tom once again plops in. Charlotte’s face – why Tom who might you be referring to when you say the presence of a certain lady has shifted Sidney’s demeanor? Could that be me? It’s me, right? He’s falling in love with me right? Is it true? Oh…um, maybe it’s not true? Wait, what? WHAT???
We are absolutely meant to feel what Charlotte feels. The camera
movement and blocking of the other dancers swirling around her zoom us in and zoom us out in a way that brings us right into her own sense of SanditonWhiplash. And certainly it would have been a confusing night for her after that. (I’ve been in that exact situation. It is not fun).
But she doesn’t crumble into a heap. That’s not Charlotte.
It might have felt nice and fairytale-ish for Sidney to get down on one knee and say I love you and let’s never stop dancing together. But he is not ready for that, and again, the story needs to unfold a little more.
The dance doesn’t just go away. The dance had to happen BEFORE he saw Eliza. The dance would change everything about the time that he may have spent with Eliza over the next few days, trying to see if they could rekindle their relationship.
The dance with Charlotte represents his new story, that which helps him finally let go of that which has kept him frozen. But he’s Not Quite There.
Eliza has ruled his psyche for years, and suddenly there she is. Her appearance at the ball probably felt like a direct punt from fate into his lap, and he had not yet evolved to the point of saying sorry you missed your chance, I moved on. That’s the point. He had not moved on. Not yet.
I absolutely understand why people are surprised that Sidney walked away toward Eliza, who appeared to him as if out of a mirage. By then Charlotte was dancing with Tom. (thanks a lot, Tom…). His heart had been softened. And he walks that softened heart right over to Eliza.
Unlike some viewers, when I next saw Sidney and Eliza coming to Tom & Mary’s, I did actually make the jump and assumed they arrived together, and I could see through their body language that they had spent some time together - different than if she had just arrived after only seeing him that one night at the ball.
Of course Charlotte didn't expect or want him to come back from London (which after all was his primary residence) with Eliza. Agreed, it was heartbreaking for Charlotte: Oh, I see…perhaps I was wrong about us. Eliza is beautiful. Maybe he’s happy.
All meant to keep the story complex, layered.
And we don’t know whether Charlotte was introduced right after the camera cut from her. It’s not a play-by-play of real life. The camera, writing, actors and directing tells us what we are meant to pay attention to. And in this case it’s how hurt she looks (and how beautiful she looks), and how guilty-conflicted Sidney looks once he sees her again.
Don’t assume Sydney‘s time with Eliza was all tea and crumpets. He had thought that maybe he finally has a “chance at happiness” with Eliza, but all his facial expressions at the Regatta (especially after Eliza’s condescending comments about Sanditon and toward Charlotte) tell me spending time again with Eliza was like trying to get back into an old pair of shoes that don't fit you anymore. And you realize you might not even like the color.
There is no way he did NOT think of Charlotte during that week. He admittedly doesn’t enjoy London society or social pretense, and feels like an “outlier” amid that environment. He is clearly not as comfortable with Eliza as he is with Charlotte (again, excellent acting by husband and wife!). So the week with Eliza helped him move AWAY from his obsession with an old, defunct love. Not a bad week’s work.
So this way and that, the story moves us forward. We make some mistakes as we search for our true selves. Sidney was wrong about Charlotte and she grew in his eyes. He was wrong about Eliza and she shrunk in his eyes.
But at the Regatta, Charlotte is not seen weeping behind a tree. She was hoping that Sidney returned her feelings, but sees him with Eliza, and when talking to both James Stringer and Lady Susan she seems almost resigned to that fact. Sad but resigned. Thank goodness for all of us Lady Susan says pooh pooh to that. This is written for us to know the intended path of the story. (The story that needs to be completed!)
So the river rowing scene.
One of my favorites, and the deepest revelation of how far Sidney came during that week with Eliza, how much he was actually moving toward Charlotte. He tried to figure out if he could return to the “river” with Eliza. Nope. He actually slips away from Eliza under the pretenses of needing to practice his rowing, knowing full well Charlotte would be there. She knows the Heraclitus quote. The outstretched hand. Come on. Balance. Compatibility. A different river, a changed man.
He also jolted out of the tent to chase Charlotte.
He was JUST ABOUT THERE. *What do you want from me?* Oh my goodness, could it be what I want with you is what I thought I wanted with Eliza all these years? That is a wallop of a realization to process. But again, instead of three years of therapy, he takes about three hours or so, then he comes to it, finally. I don’t want to be in London. I don’t want to be with Eliza. I am my best self, my truest self when I am with you.
Another moment that will stay with me.
The soul-crushing ending: Felt like we spent 8 weeks sewing an intricate, beautiful sweater and then it got snagged after only wearing it 10 minutes, and the whole thing unraveled. WHAAT?
As a midway plot point, it works even if it feels awful (and not enough time to have Sidney and Charlotte together). To get viewers coming back, it works. To get viewers to feel like it’s the end of the story, it’s just sad, and feels like it betrays all of the kernels that were dropped along the path for us to follow. Frodo falls into the lava flow. Dorothy never gets to Oz. Darcy marries Caroline Bingley.
So here’s to feeling like the revisiting with Eliza needed to happen for this particular story. And for Sidney's ability to truly give himself to Charlotte.
That his love for and connection with Charlotte is real.
That we are on yet another twist in the story line, but not the end of the road.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Thank you for sharing this David! Such an interesting perspective. Really appreciation all of the attention you are giving the Sanditon Series! It truly has been a breath of fresh air after watching so many rehashed reality TV shows.
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